If you’ve started on the fantastic journey of planning your dream wedding, you might be wondering how early is too early to start planning. While every couple has their own unique needs and desires for their big day, it’s safe to say that starting to think about your spring 2023 wedding now and booking solid dates is a wise move.

Give yourself enough time to plan and choose what you both agree on and feel good about your choice of venue and other vendors that will make your wedding day a success. Those key early decisions will leave you enough time for other important stuff later in the year like picking out bridal party dresses or planning your honeymoon and first dance!

Here are some of the ideas to start planning now if you’re getting married in the spring of 2023.

1. Partner Up on Research & Inspiration

One of the greatest things about planning early is that you don’t have to feel rushed and make last-minute decisions. Instead, you can just take your time and do your research. Check out sites like Pinterest together as a couple and jot down a list of things that you’d like to see make an appearance on your big day. Things like the floral blooms you want to use, colors for the linens and bridal party attire, maybe a hairstyle or veil you like. You can also find lots of information on upcoming color trends, dress styles and even themes to consider for 2023. Once you have some solid ideas you can start reaching out to vendors such as venue, florist, makeup artist, photographer, and others to discuss how they might be a good fit for you to make your vision come to life.

2. Book Your Venue

Perhaps one of the most important items on your list to get squared away early is the venue. It’s not only the place where you’ll be hosting your big event, but it will also determine the size of your guest list, your budget and even the day you’ll actually be getting married. Take the time to read online reviews, do your own research and book appointments to see the venue location and talk to the caterers and event staff to ensure you feel comfortable. Sample the food and service. The best venues offer tastings or “mock weddings” and having great food and service are essential to make your day truly memorable. Keep in mind that many of the most sought-after locations will book-up fast and far in advance so if you want a chance to host your wedding at an exclusive and elite venue, you need to give yourself enough time to book it.

3. Start the Guest list

Another big part of the wedding day planning that’s going to take some time is the guest list. Once you have your venue, you’ll know how many guests you can invite. Then you can start big and edit, tweak and solidify the guest list. As a general rule, 80 percent of guests will accept your invitation. It’s best to start that early on the process. Between seating charts, ordering the invitations and handling RSVPs and food choices, there’s a lot that goes into making your wedding guests enjoy your big day as well. The sooner you start to think about who you’ll invite and manage that list, the less stress you’ll have as the big day inches closer.

4. Enjoy the Ride

Once you have some of these bigger items on the list squared away, you can actually clear your mind and focus on enjoying the ride a bit more. After all, this is the day you’ve been dreaming about your whole life. You want to be sure you cherish every moment of the process.

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9 tips for planning a great LGBTQ Wedding

Love is Love at The Mitch

Love is Love at The Mitch

1. Put Some Love Into Your Ceremony

Think about it: Everyone is here for you, to celebrate your marriage and your commitment. The party will be great, but I can promise that if you have a thoughtful, meaningful ceremony, the party will be even more amazing. Write heartfelt personal vows, choose ceremony music that means something special to you, and make sure your officiant knows both of you well, and can convey the depth and unique details of your love and devotion.

2. Don’t Discard Tradition

Many gay weddings skip typical rites and rituals such as dancing with parents, cutting the wedding cake, garter and bouquet tosses, and more. But your guests actually look forward to those traditions, which help give the evening excitement and momentum. If you take a pass on some traditions, bring in substitutes. Consider cabaret performers, dancers, photo booths, or other forms of entertainment that reflect your own interests and personality, and are conversation starters for your guests.

3. Personalize, Personalize, Personalize

Hire a graphic designer to create your own custom wedding logo, and carry it throughout your wedding materials. Include your logo on your invitations, ceremony program, seating cards, menu and much more, to “brand” your wedding in style. This personal statement makes for instant, cohesive, thematic decor.

4. Relax and Let Someone Else Do The Grunt Work

Don’t be afraid to call in the help of a wedding planner. Services can vary from venue selection, vendor contracting and complete design, to simple day-of coordination. Look for a planner who has specialized training in same-sex weddings and can bring in vendors who are trained and equipped to meet your needs.

5. Go With the Flow

Even though you’re the guests of honor, you also are the hosts of this party. No matter how good the food or the entertainment is, if your guests are waiting too long for a cocktail, or you run out of hors d’oeuvre, that’s what they’ll remember. Pay attention to the details around the flow of the event, and make sure you have adequate greeters and signage so your guests know where to go. Ensure plenty of bartenders so your guests never have to wait. Anticipate heavy traffic areas and plan accordingly.

6. Be Yourself

This is your wedding, not your sister’s, your mom’s or anyone else’s! Express yourself, be nontraditional if you want to be, and don’t let anyone tell you what to do.

7. Have Two Aisles

Are you and your spouse-to-be both eager to be brides? It’s perfectly fine to have two aisles and walk simultaneously if the layout works well in your venue. If you don’t have space or a preference for two aisles, you have to decide who will be the last one down the aisle, assuming the more traditional “bridal” role.

8. Only Invite Those Who Are Happy For You

If you have any friends, family members or co-workers who aren’t excited for your wedding or don’t believe in same-sex marriage, don’t invite them! The last thing you need on your wedding day is to be self-conscious and worry about what someone else is thinking or saying. Invite only those who are thrilled to support you and your marriage.

9. Protect Your Family

While the tide is turning, and marriage equality is spreading across the globe, remember that your marriage still won’t be recognized in a bunch of places. Hire an attorney who understands LGBT family law to draw up the documents to help protect your new family so you can have peace of mind when you travel the world together as newlyweds!